Originally Posted by
outtolunch 
We so often, too often, rationalize ( excuse) manipulative/abusive behavior. We are hesitent to make harsh judgements and more likely to doubt ourselves than listen to what our gut is telling us about the manipulator's abusive character.
As I understand it, he claims to be in outpatient treatment ( paid for by insurance) which gives him the majority of each 24 hour period to do something productive, like work. And yet, he has chosen not to do this and instead, is free -loading off his sister. For all you know, he has abandoned this recovery program or perhaps been terminated from it.
This guy knows your weak points better than anyone. He knows the season. He faces homelessness because he cannot get along with his sister, a pattern. His own survival depends upon his ability to manipulate you into begging him to come home.
Get out of his way and let him fall or open yourself and children up for continued abuse.
Thanks so much to everyone for all of your input. Outtolunch this is exactly how I feel. I feel that things are gonna get rough over the next few weeks and I need to be strong because I know that when I am weak I fall back into the behaviors that hello-kitty mentioned. That is why I am posting and want support major big time because I dont want him back in this state. Nothing has changed.
I DONT KNOW if he is in treatment. I am depending on someone who right now is lying and manipulating me to tell me the truth. Ya right. I really am unsure about that. So I have to get on guard and be ready for the attack.
Thanks hello-kitty. You are right yesterday I felt like dirt because I had let him suck me back in. But I bounced back quickly with the help of friends. I figured out the manipulation with their help and now I am able to put a stop to it. I need you guys so I will keep posting. HELP ME NOT BE WEAK AND LET HIM COME HOME!!!!!
I dont want to get sucked back in..............