Good for you, for making the care of yourself and your kids the priority.
He may come to see that he wants his life back as he knew it. But only if the pain is so great that he is willing to do the work to change.
Doing the work to make your own life better, is all you can do.
The addict in my life caused me so much pain that I sought my own recovery through
al-anon, therapy and other spiritual paths. regardless of what goes on with him,
my life is full, blessed and I know a better way to live and relate to others now.
I know where the best place for my focus is...on myself.
I take my own inventory and let others
do the same...or not.
I know this is tough for you and the kids. Hang in there mom.
Don't be afraid to stick close to a support system and ask for help as you need it.