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I'm so sorry for your pain...
You have that right to be hurt because your DIL is being very selfish and immature about the visiting arrangements for your grandson.. I'm betting she is a very angry and bitter person who probably should be working her own recovery program but is not...
I don't know what advice to give you because I dont have any kids but your son should document everything with his lawyers so that hopefully the judge will give him the rights to his child that he deserves... There are grandparents rights too you know... check into them and see what rights you have for visitation with your grandson..
I'm so sorry about the card... in the long run the only person your DIL is hurting is herself and of course her little boy...