I'm sorry if I sound harsh here but where are your priorities?
Instead of thinking about returning and buying gifts for someone who is hurting you emotionally, threatening you physically - I'd be looking for the best present for myself - FREEDOM from this chaos. I'd be writing my list (and checking it twice) of how to get out of this mess.
All humour aside - please take the time to read some of the stickies here and the postings here on SR - they have helped me thru my darkest hours. Keep posting and reading.
I hope you find peace from the chaos in your life - K.