My son's new PO seems very green to me and my son was the one requesting it so he got to PO by telling him how he has been in jail for every holiday for the last year. But i know that his dad is putting it into his head. I was a bit floored by all of it because i also dont agree and I was really upset that his PO even told him there was a chance - why get this kids hopes up if they may be dashed. sending him home for a month - with nothing to do is a recipie for disaster and it just seems like he is getting set up for failure.
The best thing for him would be to just stay in jail till he can get into rehab but if they do send him home then i just cant understand why anyone would consider him going to live with this deadbeat. I suspect if they do send him home to either place that he'll be in trouble before the month is up. I just see too many signs right now of manipulation and unrealistic expectations and he still glamorizes his drug use and other illegal activities. He was going over all his injuries that are bothering him - he injured himself a few times when he ran and they are not healing well - just one more thing diabetics live with but he thinks its all cool. He has one injury on his back from almost three months ago that's not healed - this is a weekend he was at his dad's - he let him go out and while scaling some fences he cut his back up really bad. dad didnt take him to the doc even though he needed stickes and it ended up getting infected. it still hurts and he'll have a scar for life from it.
He does have some good ideas and thoughts right now which are a positive start but i can tell he is still really fragile and not completely ready to turn away from the life he was living. The fact that this he doesnt understand what affect living with an active addict can have on his recovery tells me that he cant make wise choices yet. So dangit i'm going to be forced to make it for him and i just hate that and hate that his dad puts me in this position.
The more I write the more I realize that I have no choice - I have to be upfront and stop this. They started it and i'm going to have to finish it and they can just be mad at me. i've been blamed for everything else who cares if i'm blamed for this as long as it keeps him out of danger. I hate tough love - i just want to enjoy my child.