This is dangerous ground we tread with our addicts. We really love them and want to believe them and even sometimes we see their old selves show through a bit....
This is where we have to really stick to our guns. Say what we mean and mean what we say. I see this as being an opportunity for you winnie to see him and see where he is at too. My ex is starting to come around with being able to converse with me but I still sense some dishonesty and a little manipulation so I too have to be careful.
Good luck. I know how hard it will be to do. Let us know how the visit goes.
Prayers for your strength to continue.....