Originally Posted by
steve137 
i feel myself being sucked back into something toxic or just not what is right for me.
YES you are being sucked into something that is toxic... Now you have to ask yourself the question WHY? Why are you being sucked in? It's not your GF that is sucking you in... the problem lies with you.. For some reason you feel responsible for this person's happiness. For some reason you feel like you have to rescue someone that quite frankly does not want to be rescued.
You need to ask yourself why you have found yourself in a relationship such as this one.. Healthy people do not get into relationships with addicts or otherwise toxic people.. There is always some underlying issue in us that makes us choose someone that we can fix, rescue, take care of or just feel responsible for their happiness...
Steve, I urge you to pick up the book Codependent No More and read every single page... you will find a lot of answers in that book.