I used to want my exah to want me back too, so I thought, but now I'm so glad that he is my ex, after a while I just felt better. I had no contact with him, untill he was sober, now I talk to him and I'm glad he is doing well, but I have no need to "make" him want to be with me, I was no more good for him as he was for me.I let go and I got the help to do so by comming here and attending allanon, I hope you find what helps you