I am probably not the best person to give advice, and am just starting to realize a lot of things. But, my AH gets drunk away from home, stays home the next night and does nothing but lay on the couch and complain. So I am short, sarcastic and resentful. Then he goes out the next night because I haven't been nice. He will pick a fight with me so that he has a "reason" to go do it again. Times when I know that I am right, his alcohol addled brain finds a way to make me wrong. I thought these things only happened in my house. After finding this site, I now know that it's not just us. It's what alcoholics do. Makes me wonder how it's even still legal!!