If/when you do talk to a lawyer I would suggest you approach it as a fact finding mission rather than going in with both guns blazing. Getting aggressive lawyers involved can be similar to staring a big snow ball effect where the momentum can get out of control. Getting educated as to the domestic laws of my state and my rights as a father helped me immensely when I went through my divorce. Much of it I could read up on the state judicial web site. I also learned just how hard it can be to prove a mother unfit, even in circumstances worse than your own.