....sounds to me like she is projecting, quacking, displacing, manipulating, etc...etc...etc...and all of this is absolutely typical for and alcoholic who's lifestyle (and therewith the ease with which she can engage in her addictive behavior) is being threatened in any way...and it won't change unless/until she has a significant level of recovery.
The good news is you seem to be pretty clear about the fact that you don't want to be part of this kind of life and you don't like being played in this way -- and no sane person would. So, trust yourself and your own sense of reality and your own feelings about what is going on and do what you need to do not to let yourself be sucked back in to her sick life -- even if it means an extended period of absolutely no contact...which, in my experience, is often what it takes to convince an active A that you are really done playing her game and she needs to look for another hostage.
freya