Lawless

It's a bit of a long one sorry,

Back in may my GF began drinking to the point of becoming an A. During the next 6 months she began spending every other night in a local bar staying till it closed. I began to hear some things about her antics there and I decided to attend this bar and see for myself just what was going on.

it turns out that she has been getting guys numbers and going for beers with them etc. but with holding this information from me.

I told her at the time that I wasn't going to tolerate this kind of thing and her drinking was gonna have to stop for me to carry on with our relationship.

So she stops, goes to an addictions counselor etc. Pretty soon she's back at it again, again I tell her this has got to end and it does for a time.

On OCT 31 she blows me off to go to that bar yet again and I end things the next day. A week later she calls and asks me if we could be together if she chooses healthy activities instead of this bar, I reluctantly agree and make plans to take her on a trip to see a band that she has wanted to see forever.

The week before the trip she eases back into drinking again and I see bad things on the horizon. We attend the bar the night before the concert and she seems to be going out of her way to interact with one of the guys who she had been drinking with. I called her on it in front of her drinking buddies. I told her it was making me very uncomfortable and I would feel better if she smoked in a different area than this guy was in. She told me to basically suck it up.

That night she told me to take my ticket and shove it up my ass, she wasn't going. I decided to end things with her at that point, she is now XAGF That was a week ago and I haven't heard from her until tonight.

She called and was freaking out that I left without her and that I was an A myself. So many horrible things she said, she told me to watch my back and that things were in motion for her to pay me back. I told her that none of this would have happened if she wasn't drinking and especially if she hadn't insisted on being around that guy.

She honestly thinks that going out to the bar and sneaking around with some guys from there is perfectly acceptable.


My question is this.

Is she projecting, quacking or what? She tried to turn everything around and make me out to be the bad guy. Is this a normal occurrence when the relationship with an A comes to an end?

I kinda felt bad after talking to her but now after typing this I am alot better.