Originally Posted by
houston28 
I know the difference between when she is sober and drunk and her behavior was very consistent with her having been drinking.
As Toby Rice Drews advises in "Getting Them Sober, vol. 1", "Don't worry About Whether (S)He's Really an Alcoholic." We only need concern ourselves with whether someone else's drinking (and this encompasses lack of sobriety and some sort of plan to maintain it) affects us negatively. And what we need to do for ourselves to take care of ourselves in that situation. Sounds like you are on the right track with your determination to do just that for both you and your children.