Thanks so much Janit. I have tried Al-anon and I need to try some different ones. Everybody here has been so kind in responding to my thread and I really appreciate it. I think the child situation is so much tougher if the alcoholic spouse has such a large role in caring for the kids. Also, no matter what evidence I find she still sticks to her story that she has been sober for a month and I know she has been going to meetings but I just in my heart know that she was drunk two nights ago and that was before I found the bottles. What if I am wrong though?