Thank you so much to the three of you that have responded. The child care thing is tough because she is not going to tolerate anyone coming to look after the girls if she is home. She works 7 to 3 so she is home when the kids return from school. She feels she can still be a good mother when drinking, in other words, a functioning alcoholic. But I can tell that she is overwhelmed and gets short with the girls especially when she is sober. She is a very angry and depressed person and I also feel that my oldest daughter is becoming an angry little girl and that breaks my heart. Man I am really confused.