Congrats on your continued recovery. That is awesome!
I hear ya on this one. My STBXAH is usually just a quacker too. He loves to intimidate. Well he called me a few weeks back and informed me I should expect a "surprise visit" in 30 minutes. Not sure who exactly who didnt show up but I put a CPO on him. I'm to the point that I will no longer tolerate his harrassment and intimidation. I can't say whether he would ever do anything but he is an alcoholic with an anger problem and that is scarry enough. But I tell you it never ceases to amaze me how an alcoholic can say so many things and never remember that they said it.