I'm glad that you found us!
When I first began to feel the full force of fear and disappointment that accompanied my husband's alcoholism I felt like I had to do something.
Anything.
Everything.
But I had no idea what to do.
You're already WAY ahead of where I was - You're here!!!
That's a great step.
Al-Anon has also been very helpful for me.
In the beginning, education was key. I read all the stickies at the top of this page, and I read a lot on the Alcoholism forum, as well. I got a few ideas about what I could expect - if he continued to drink, and if he chose recovery. Knowing what other people had experienced made the future seem less terrifying.
In time, the right choices became clear to me. They will become clear to you, as well. Be patient with yourself in the meantime.
Keep coming back, jennygirl.
Keep us posted.
-TC