Originally Posted by
Godsgirl 
good morning, youve done nothing to cause hate in me, i still love you, even if we arent together, i stole nothing from you, never ever, not you, nor my family, like i said, i still love you and your kids, i dont want to end up with no one on this earth hating me, i did nothing to cause hate in your eyes, maybe we didnt go out as much as u would have liked, sorry for that, but its me, well, you dont have to write me back, im kind of tired of reading your hate emails, so, let peace be between us, even if we arent together no more
Ok I know this goes against trying to figure the addict out but I read this and would like to add a few thoughts....
He hates himself. Hoping to hear you say I dont hate you. The part about stealing is an admission. Anyway you look at his has stole from you. You have been robbed of a relationship you once thought was good.
When he says he doesnt want anyone to hate him its what he truly wants. He wants something that he cant even have for himself right now. He is seeing whatever you say to him as you hating him.
Thats sad that addicts get into this mode of thinking that they hate themselves so therefore everyone else must to.
Its like walking around with a barely there pimple and you are praying that noone will notice it. Then someone comes up to talk to you and all you can say to yourself is "do they notice my pimple. They are looking right at it" and it goes on and on and then you realize you didnt even hear what the other person said.
IMHO that is what talking to an active addict is like. They know what they are doing is wrong and while you are trying to talk "sense" into them everything you are saying they cant hear because they are so caught up in either self hate or hoping you dont see the pimple......