forgiveness
RAH and I have been seeing a counselor. The counslor seems focused on my lack of forgiveness for what occurred in out marriage because of his drinking. My question is this: Exactly HOW do I forgive him? Are there steps you have taken to forgive your A?
He has been dry for the last 19 months. He was doing the same things, anger issues, tantrums, threats, etc, until a month ago. The counselor finally called him on it. He MAY be seeing the light now, but I am not getting my hopes up yet. He seems a little easier to live with for now.
I thought that I was beginning to forgive him, letting go of the anger, in relation to the things he didnt repeat while sober.
I dont even know that I wnt to continue the marriage, but i do know, that no matter what, I need to find forgiveness.
Any suggestions??