I used this forum as a great means of support while my daughter was active in her addiction. Once she got clean and came home, I started going to Ala-anon meetings. I found that I really needed the face to face support more with her in recovery than I did when she was using. It is really hard dealing with a recovering addict. My daughter still has so many addict behaviors left. Right now it is so important that I keep the focus on me and let her deal with her own issues. Going to meetings might help you to learn why you picked an addict in the first place. It definitely won't hurt. Hugs, Marle