Been to rehab. In patient and out-patient. And the twelve steps. He is a long way from making amends. And in my ex-husband's case..he never made amends, even though he had 8 years sober before he relapsed again. Don't EXPECT anything. When I was in rehab we work on steps 1-4. We had to do our inventory. And that was as far as it went. Since I've only been back a short time, I don't know...do you go to meetings for yourself?? It is very important for you to go to meetings now. In most rehabs they have some sort of "family" program. Even if you and he aren't together, you have children and those areas need to be addressed.