Hi there mother of an addict. I know it's hard when you love someone, but you really need to stand back and let him find his own recovery. As long as he is using he will lie, cheat and steal. You see his first love is heroine, I know that sounds so painful but it is the truth. Everything else is secondary in his life. What is important is you and your well being. Have you tried Naranon? It will get better for you it takes time and small steps. Keep coming back here wonderful people and support.