It is a hard concept to understand, but loving him by giving him money and running him to get his DOC is not an act of loving kindness. Love is not always doing what we perceive as "good", sometimes we have to love someone enough to let them go. By letting him go, you are helping to raise his bottom. His bottom may or may not be a long way off, but the sooner he reaches out for help, for himself, is ultimately the goal - and so, stepping back is raising his bottom by that much. Help him by stepping away and then help yourself. Meetings, writing and reading here, therapy, etc. Whatever it takes. You have the right to a happy and healthy life. Worry about YOU! If you don't think about you, how many others that love YOU will lose YOU. Don't forget to count yourself!
(((welcome)))