2many....
Hang in there, darling. I think you posted in the right place... many of us here get falshbacks, and quite often its because something in our current life triggers something that happened int he past.... the safest way I have found to make it all stop is to stop putting myself in the situations that might trigger them... not dating or being around men that are similar to the ones that have hurt me... not that we can ever be 100% safe, but that we can take actions... we dont have to sit around and wait to be hurt again.
Please listen to what MG and the others are saying.... get help, get him help, or get out....
Hugs and support,
Laven