My addictions counsellor told me that I needed to look at my parents as though they were a hardware store ... and asked me why I kept going to the hardware store when I needed lettuce.
A strange analogy, perhaps, but it helped me to see that I've been going to them for something they didn't have (compassion, support etc). I've learned to come here or to an AA meeting when I need lettuce .. and well .. when I need some nuts and bolts
I call my parents.
My parents have been quite cruel, also. It's only been through several years of meetings and therapy that I have been able to move past this, and to forgive them their shortcomings.
I'm glad you're okay, Deedums. Mega
