Originally Posted by
Stubborn1 
You are giving him mixed signals by sending him cards.
Keep talking to your sponsor.
Hey, thanks for the reminder.
I do want to clarify- no cards!!!!! A one line message on his birthday, he doesnt have a phone for me to text anonymously since i did change my number (so i wouldnt call him).
It just said- hope you have a great birthday!
When he messaged me to do lunch, i also sent a short one line response.
Perhaps i do want to keep the communication lines open- as i mentioned in my post- because it scares me to lose him completely and maybe one day i will be able to give him support and encouragement platonically.
but i also think that i shared 9 years of friendship with this person and out of respect, i don't want to ignore him completely.