thats what my ex always said, well i figured it out..he wants a back up gf so if his life gets really crappy he thinks he will always have me to fall back on, like for money or a place to stay...etc.. he wouldnt call me usually unless he needed something from me.. what he is doing is pretty normal for an addict,, they cant afford to lose the few people who beleived in thier lies,,im sure he does care for you in his own sick way but its not on the way we know it should be..