((((((hugs))))))
My family was never there for me either. I always thought it was me. After years of therapy I came to believe it wasn't me. It was them. It wasn't that they were with-holding from me, they just didn't have it to give. It just wasn't in them. Once I was able to grasp that, I was able to move on. I stepped away from their insanity and built a life of my own.
Of course, I grieved but once I was free from wanting them to act the way I wanted them to, I was at peace. The anger was gone. I had no more expectations that were let down.
You are starting a whole new part of your life. I wish for you the peace and love you and your new baby deserve.
I hope this helps.
Love,
Lenina