I wish you the best going forward with your new life. Freedom said it better than I could......actually hit it square on. I am also the one who caused the disconnect with my preference for drinking over a relationship. Fortunately I have caught it early enough to intervene and make a life change before it costs me my marriage. It sounds as if the rest of your family is in some form of denial regarding the condition of your ex. Most of this is misguided anger due to lack of understanding or refusal to see things for how they were. It will get better with time hopefully and the decision you made should be applauded. Best wishes with your future.