"Try another approach." It's such a simple solution, but it works like a charm:
When things aren't working in my life, try another approach.
When I'm feeling sorry for myself, try another approach.
When I'm playing the role of victim, try another approach.
When I'm in a lousy mood, try another approach.
It makes so much more sense than doing the same thing over and over again. It's such a simple lesson, but so very hard to learn. Now that you've acquired this simple tool, imagine all the ways you can use it.