Freedom said what I would say, and said it so well. I completely agree. You don't need to compare yourself with anyone else. You are YOU, no one else. Be yourself. I would suggest you take a look at our Friends and Families forum, and maybe consider Al-Anon. I can see the problem best from the angle of the alcoholic, which was me, but can also understand what I put my kids thru.
You take good care of YOU. You deserve it.
Welcome!:ghug3