Originally Posted by
Niedler 
Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with
me during this process?
Hi Niedler:
How about the following question: Is it healthy for you to be in a relationship with her during this process?
Originally Posted by
Niedler Her walls can be quite high and I think she has a
hard time trusting people. I don't want out, I want her to be healthy.
It's OK to want her to be healthy. However, having said that, whenever I tried to make others around me healthy, the end result was I got very sick. I soon realized that I wouldn't be of any benefit to anybody, including myself, if I am sick. Getting healthy for me made me aware that I can't make others healthy.
Peace.