Originally Posted by
Niedler 
Is it healthy for her to be in a relationship with
me during this process ?
I don't want out, I want her to be healthy.
Her choice.
It's her choice as to whether or not she makes healthy choices and what "healthy choices" means to her.
I wanted XABF to be healthy too - to the point where I was unhealthy.
Thing is - not using the tools I learned in recovery from codependence would not get me very far in my recovery. Hiding from life won't get me any closer to who I want to be
