Trust is such a tricky, sticky situation, MLE. You and I have spoken about our husbands b4. I agree with all the other posters who say that you are doing what YOU need to do, but he also has a part to play, willingly or not, if the relationship is move forward.
If anything, my husband is reacting in the opposite fashion...he tends to NOT acknowledge my progress and act as if everything is peachy keen. Part of me wants him to applaud me every other minute since this issue has been so destructive, but he seems to respond "you quit drinking, that's nice, where do you want to go for dinner?" Because he is not alcoholic, it ISN'T a big deal to him to quit drinking.
For several years, I lied to him about my drinking (I said I was tired, had taken Benadryl or whatever excuse I could think of). It was sort of unspoken that I was lying, but to actually admit the truth out loud would have forced a confrontation that I think neither of us wanted to start. Now that I am trying to be honest and wipe the slate clean, I am wondering whether I should say "remember all those times when I SAID...".
I know that this is your thread and I apologize for asking for help for a problem of mine, but what do you think I should do? Bring it up or leave it alone? I'm scared of the unknown and worried about his reaction. Now that we are moving forward, I really don't want to rock the boat. Yet, I want to be honest....