I think you're doing what you need to be doing - it just takes time, and your husband may not be 'coming around' as quickly as others may. My kids have forgiven me and are trusting me again, but the youngest still drags up my drinking any time we disagree. I can't blame her. I can only continue to live sober, one day at a time, and hope she'll understand.
Be good to yourself. Perhaps if/when your husband sees you treating yourself with respect it will encourage him to treat you with (more) respect and begin to trust you more.
