Welcome back!
I'm sorry you're going through this again, but I have to echo what everyone else says...he uses because he wants to.
Since I'm an RA, I have firsthand knowledge of this. I could use ANYTHING as an excuse to use...good day, bad day, sun shining, raining, whatever.
In the last month, I have been a victim of a robbery at work, was hit on the head and am dealing with health issues from this, not to mention financial. I COULD easily use this as an excuse to use, but I'm not. Instead, I will have 20 months clean in a few days.
I also did the "poor me, my life sucks" whenever I first had to start dealing with my consequences. My family just said "I'm sorry" but let me find my own way through it all. That's the greatest gift they could have given me, because each little step I made toward recovery, made me more confident.
Focus on you, and let him find his own way....even if that means without you.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy