Frankie,
Hi, welcome to SR.
Al-Anon is most definetely a place for you! If you want to learn to live your life, to put the focus on what you do and do not have responsibility for, then Al-Anon is a place for you.
I attend Al-Anon one night a week and Nar-Anon one night a week. My father is an alcoholic (82 (or so) years old w/dementia and no drivers license) so is limited to one beer a night now, but still very classic alcoholic behaviors and my 28 year old son is a drug addict. Both groups are helping me to learn to put the focus on me, what I am responsible for, what I can control and how I can live my life with serenity.
Check out a few meetings.