Thanks both of you. I agree ... I can feel myself weakening in some ways. I feel sorry for her and seeing her falling apart more and more is awful.
I really wish we could have her committed.
My husband has suggested that we move some of our old furniture out to the garage, clean it up, and put in a tv and some videogames and stuff... and let them have their visits out there with us monitoring on a baby monitor. In the end this would still cost a whole lot less than hiring someone to supervise them. I guess I have to ask the lawyer if this is a reasonable thing to do or if we'd be considered to be breaking the judge's order or somehow hurting my sister and/or her daughter by doing it.
And I guess I have to really ask myself if this is going to be a safe thing for all of us from an emotional/ mental standpoint too.
I just don't know how we can be expected to pay for these visits.