I have no idea if the outcome would have been different if you would have called first, perhaps she may have arranged for someone to meet you at the house then so it wouldn't have been a wasted journey for you, but then you are relying on whether she is reliable to do that.
I hope i didn't cause offense by my post, this subject is close to me at the mo and I may have taken that into my response to you. I apologise if that is so.
i hope you both manage to work thiongs so you can get your stuff with minimum of hassle.
Serenity
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