Many times I would write out everything I wanted to say to my mom concerning why I can't stand her.
I just never sent it to her. Why? Because even tho she's been in AA fo r30 years, sober, she wouldnt' understand one single word of it. She would feel that I am hurting her for no reason.
She wouldn't "get it".
It's pointless for me. It wouldnt' change anything.
Now, if she were still drinking, I wouldn't hesitate. But, once they stop drinking they like to pretend that nothing bad ever really happened.
It's tough.
I wonder what your mom's response to it is?