Mine just recently told me that she would not have gotten as badly addicted to heroin if I had stayed in her life. What she forgot was that she was the one who didn't want to see me because she was high. I think she said that because she is once again going down a slippery slope and she wants me to help her have both her addiction and a middle class lifestyle. Not going to happen but she is trying. Give yourself credit for realizing that they are just manipulating. That shows some real progress in your recovery. Hugs, Marle