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earthgirl, In my case I did not tell my AH that I was going to Alanon at first. I went to noon meetings on a weekday so there was no reason he would know. I found that Alanon was something I needed to do for me.
I didn't tell my wife for the first couple of months. Started doing some of the suggestions, she accused me of having a girlfriend! Guess there were some changes in me. My group got a good laugh out of that. Ha!
After she found out, not very pleased. A few months later a CPS judge "sentenced" me to Alanon. Almost three years now 2-3 per week.... and I'll continue for life, no doubt.
I feel like Alanon and it's kind loving members saved my life, my sanity for sure!
Thanks and God bless us all, :ghug
Coyote