Hi debc--
I hope this is a positive turning point for your wife - and for YOU!
I second (or third??!!) the AlAnon suggestions. SR is wonderful support especially as it is avail 24/7 - but there is so much I learned at AlAnon, just basic stuff that allowed me to build a foundation for my recovery from the affects of alcoholism on me and my family. Really turned my head around.
Good luck & stick around and keep posting!!
Peace-
B.