Originally Posted by
dothi 
Wow, you sent that email and read the reply without collapsing into tears and guilt? 
I think this is a stage very few ACoAs truly achieve in dealing with their parents. You sound like you're doing really well! I'm very happy for you! I've thought about writing something like that to my Dad -- but the problem is, he absolutely would not get it. Zero recognition of the effect he has on people -- he's a Superior Being™, so how could there be a problem?
Still, as an exercise for ourselves, it could be very healthy. Maybe I'll try writing my Dad a letter like that, and then just read it over and throw it in the shredder when I'm done! That would work just as well....
T