Hey rozied, If its any consulation~and I know it won't be~~But I screwed up big time with Chris. I was enabling him for a few years after he left our house cause I had no clue he was into drugs. I just thought I was being the helpful mom. After I started therapy and learned about codependancy I cried for hours. I should have let my husband father him in the way he wanted too and maybe we would have had this licked years ago. Who knows ?? Thats the problem. We can't dwell on what we did but we can make it better for ourselves now. Big hugs sweety~ Bonnie