welcome, jluvsw, glad you're here!
The best thing I did at the outset was educate myself on alcoholism. There are some great books - there is a sticky that contains them. Also, reading the stickys here may help you recognize how many others have felt the same as you (meeting the greatest man on earth) and then the progressive decline into the disease.
One of the best suggestions I ever heard in Al Anon was to look for the similarities, not the differences.
Keep posting!