grrr... I just wrote a whole response to your great advice, Amy and it didn' post!
Basically, what I said is that I need to go to my own Nar-anon meetings because there are control issues that I need to deal with and issues that I have not gotten over fromthe lies that he used to tell me.
He says that my accusations, although I feel are valid due to his past, are a negative source in his recovery and that I am bringing his positive outlook down in his dealing with his "now". Ever since he told me about his urges to use again I have gotten paranoid in him relasping and bringing up a lot of things he's done in the past. Which he says I need to stop doing...
Thanks again for all your advice and I will keep you updated. THere was a lot more that I wrote but unfortunately didn't post...