What did you do to grieve a relationship?
I do not want my X-husband back. (20 year emotionally abusive relationship with an alcoholic..divorced 3 months) I am glad I am moving forward, albeit slowly. But I am just stuck with something from/about the relationship and am having trouble stopping myself from thinking about the X.
I think about him because he keeps doing crappy things that hurt the kids, and sometimes hurt me (like being weeks late with child support every month, refusing to answer emails concerning the kids, putting his sex life in front of spending time with the kids) and I am thinking about those issues and how to handle them. I know I need to stop this obsession and letting him continue to take up space in my head. I know I need to accept he is probably going to behave poorly, and my counselor suggests expecting the worst.
My counselor thinks I need to finish grieving. I have no idea what she means, other than images of women wailing in sack cloth and ashes.
What does grieving mean to you? How did you grieve?