My Abf usually sticks to what he says he is going to do...unless he starts using. That's when the lies start. For the most part his is honest and loyal...when he is not using. I know what to look for now, got anything of value to me and my check books locked up in my office @ work where he can't get them. He doesn't make me feel bad about things I do or say. i wasn't even mad that I had him arrested this past time around. He understands why I do the things I do and say what I need to say. I have never done Heroin and nor do I ever want to after I see what it does to people. I try to be firm, yet still understand his disease. I know it must be hard for him, but that doesn't excuse his actions. I hope he has hit rock bottom...but you just never know.
I am sorry to hear about your A as well. Good luck and hugs to you.