I want one of those coffee mugs that says 'Denial-and it ain't a river in Egypt either'!
I couldn't even begin to see the codependent side of this whole thing until my oldest AD started plunging into her addictions, and I've gotten quite an education over the years.
I still refused to address the codependency issues after I left the psychotic violent AH, but it's sure hard to neatly ignore it when it's your own kids.
I have received so much from good people on both sides of the coin, and I thank each and every one of you for that! :ghug